(Relational) progression not (instant) perfection Bear in mind that, sometimes, even “maybe” is the wrong answer. Put simply, “some relationships in your life may be more liabilities than assets.”īut how do you differentiate between the two? Todd says that it’s not really difficult and that you can tell whether a relationship is from God by looking at this one qualification: “does it help you?” So, start there: go through all your close relationships and submit them to this simple litmus test. After all, while some relationships are worth the risk and the work, others are mere distractions from God. It’s not that smart to be old-fashioned and bet all your chips on a single number in the roulette of love and life. However, we have to help him – especially on the “successful” part. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.” In other words, “God wants every single one of us to have successful relationships.” Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. “Two people are better off than one,” reminds us the prophet from Ecclesiastes, “for they can help each other succeed. “It is not good for the man to be alone,” God said before creating a wife for him. Genesis says that he wasn’t satisfied with his work until realizing that Adam needed some company. This is the reason why God created Eve in the first place. In fact, there are only a few things worse than solitude. It couldn’t have been any different – after all, relationships are about commitment, and modern society is all about limitless freedom.īut we’re not built to go through this life alone. “We live in a world that has more and more relationships and less and less love, more and more sex and less and less intimacy,” Todd states straightforwardly near the beginning of “Relationship Goals.” That’s the price we’ve paid in the bargain for our independence.

So, get ready to start applying the Bible to your relationships and prepare to learn how to use God’s word to find the right one! Finding the right person “There’s more to relationship than what pop culture has taught,” he writes, encouraging his readers to make room in their hearts for God and try – through his infinite wisdom – to make the bonds to their beloved more profound. How many times an enchanting photograph of a famous or an unknown couple on Instagram has made you sigh in desperation: “I want a relationship just like that!” In “Relationship Goals,” Michael Todd – the lead pastor of Transformation Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma – suggests you should stop sighing.

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